I Want This For Evie Someday

One of the thoughts I had when I first found out about Evie's 21st chromosome was that she wouldn't be able to go to college, get a job, and get married.  Since then, I've read about DS kids who go on to do amazing things, and ordinary things like getting a degree, getting a job, living in their own place, and even getting married.   I want Erick to someday interrogate someone about how he will treat our daughter. I want him to dance the First Dance with her at her wedding and cry my eyes out.
Evie's 1st Easter dress!

I saw the video below and it gave me hope--hope that one day Evie will find someone who falls in love with her and cherishes her.  He doesn't have to be rich, he doesn't have to be brilliant, and he doesn't even have to know how to drive (cue Shania Twain song). 


This is yet another example in which I remind myself that I cannot control Evie's destiny.  She is our gift from God, and God loves her more than I could possibly love her.  Therefore I will have to entrust her heart to Him.  In the meantime, I'll do my best to teach her that she is loved and she is treasured, and that she can share her love with others.

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  2. These are such sweet and loving words from the bottom of a mother's heart. Let it be!

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